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Coaches ToolBox Cheat Sheet (DRAFT) by

Tool box filled with coaching strategies, processes, frameworks, and other methods for leading successful coaching sessions.

This is a draft cheat sheet. It is a work in progress and is not finished yet.

Pre-Co­aching Ritual

Don't rush
Creates flow
Simple inner meditation
Deep breaths
Stress relief
It's important to create a nice pre-co­aching ritual for yourself as well as inviting your client to do the same.

5 Erickson Principles

People are okay as they are.
People already have all the resources within them to achieve what they want.
People always make the best choice they can at the time.
Every behavior has a positive intention.
Change is inevit­able.
Viewing yourself, your client, and others in the world through this lens helps you stay in coach position and offers a new perspe­ctive in relation to people in general.

Basics of Rapport

Soften­ers­/Verbal fluff
Open-ended questions
Back tracking
These are some of the basic rapport principles while model of the world and meta programs are considered more advanced rapport building techni­ques.


Don't forget...
Rapport, coach position, and solution focused questi­oning happen throughout the session. Recontract as needed.

Closed to Open Questions

Is there a way...?
What could you do...?
Can you do...?
How would your life change...?
Could there be another approach?
How else could you approach that?
Are there other options?
What other options are there?
Closed questions promote yes or no answers where open questions support creative brains­torming from the client's end.

Solution Focused vs Solution Oriented

Take Note of the Follow­ing...
Solution Focused Questions: Focus on the solution, not the problem and they do not offer a solution, but invite the client to brainstorm creatively about potential solutions. Solution focused questions are positive and move towards positive solutions instead of moving away from the negative.

Solution Oriented Questions: Often refer to questions that offer a solution to the problem which assumes you're the expert when the client is the expert on their own life. This is also where coaching and consulting have very distinct differ­ences.

Should you, could you, will you, don't you, can you, are you, etc...

Session Contract

Flow from rapport to contract
Be clear in your time expect­ations
Never suggest or assume a contract topic
Allow the client to decide the best topic
Help the client discover their core topic
Get an unequi­vocal YES! from the client
Sugges­tion: We have __ minutes, what might be the best possible outcome of our session today? OR We have __ minutes, what would be the best use of our time together?

Planning Questions

What do you want?
Why is it important to you?
How would you know you've got it?
How might you get it?
These sample questions can be asked in many ways but are intended to get the client thinking about the focus of the session and to give them support in navigating through the session contra­cting process.

Outcome Frame

Stated in the positive
Within their control
S.M.A.R.R.T - Specific, Measur­able, Action­able, Realistic, Relevant, Timed
It's ecological
Note: Stated in positive can be tricky, so pay close attention that the topic really is positive and doesn't include any words that could be negative or show movement away from an action.

Create an Experience - 1

Really dive into:
How might you get it?
How might you develop it future?
Help them start the process of creative explor­ation.

Creating and Experience - 2

Where? When?
Who else?
Start with the basics by brains­torming at the founda­tional level and then moving to a more global world view.

Creating an Experience - 3

Tools and Frameworks
Logical Levels
"As If" Shifts
Chosen Timeline
Tri-Po­sition Planning
Values Based Self Image
Note: More to come as well as full cheat sheet pages dedicated to each item on this list.

Action Steps

Flow from experience into action steps.
Allow the client to create action steps.
Request specific steps that are S.M.A.R.R.T.
How might they really ensure their commit­ment?
Use direct commun­ication to bring forward consid­era­tions.
Continue to ask, "­Any­thing else?" until client is satisfied with action steps.
User your coach/­client relati­onship and your best judgement when bringing up consid­era­tions. Try to use something like, "I'm just checking in here, but ____." Remember, the client knows what's best for them in the moment.

Closing Session

How was this session of value to you (client)?
Appreciate the client (for exploring, sharing the space, etc).